Handling and nurturing kids is not an easy task. Parents
need lots of patience to deal with their growing child intelligently. The point
to be concerned is how to be patient in the mid of the situation when the child
throws tantrum? It’s difficult to control ourselves to not to react at the
situation and think clearly.
Well, I think it’s difficult but not impossible. Parents need to
focus on what and how they want to convey the right message to their child so
that it can become a part of their values.
First of all, parents should understand that children don’t throw
tantrums unnecessarily. In most cases, there are reasons behind them, like:
tiredness, hunger, and unfilled tank of love and affection. So to understand
those reasons and to your child, parents need to follow the steps below-
1- Calm down and try not to
panic: Mostly every child throws tantrum once in a while. Instead of
thinking what others will say or think, parents should not panic and concerned
the need of their child.
2- Relax yourself: Parents
should relax themselves first, before relaxing their child. Because if you are
relaxed than only your mind will work in the right direction. To relax yourself
firstly, take a deep breath, than pause and once again take a deep breath. Have
some water also if you need.
3- Think clearly: Once
you are relaxed, you can think about the situation, reasons, solutions and the
response you want to give to your child.
4- Respond, not react: There
is a huge difference between response and reaction. When parents reply to their
child without thinking, or on their instinct, is a reaction. Replying after thinking the cons and pros is called Response.
5-Talk about the situation:
Once parent and child are settled, they should talk about the situation. Children
need to learn a lesson from the situation and this will only happen if
parent and child discuss about the reasons, consequences and solutions for what
had happened.
Good one! Handling kid's tantrums patiently is really a challenging task.
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